It’s January! You’ve probably seen dozens of “New Year, New You” ads promising to make you better. Whether it’s losing weight, quitting smoking, or eating healthier, the premise is that it’s a blank slate to create the best version of yourself.
Speaking as a working mother of teens, this just doesn’t resonate with me. I feel as if the world is always telling us that we’re not enough. You’re not a good enough mom, you’re not spending enough time at work, you’re not thin enough. Let’s just agree that we are FINE the way we are. Maybe we could take a minute to celebrate the things we’re proud of in the past year? It’s important to find a way to like and appreciate yourself now, and then look at making changes through that lens.
As a trainer (for the past 30 years), I work with many women who hope to change something about their body. The most common goal that I hear is “I want to lose weight” usually followed by a statement about how getting older/ peri-menopause has made it difficult. Yes, being a 40/ 50 something woman is sometimes super fun! We next make SMART goals, trying to get specific. If weight management is a goal, we can measure a waist circumference or body composition (as opposed to weight on the scale). A SMART goal might be, “I will lose 1 inch from my waist by February 14th.” Depending on the person, this may be a realistic and timely goal. It’s important to have a way to measure your success!
Next is the WHY. WHY do you want to lose weight? I love to hear clients say things like they want to be able to walk up steps without getting out of breath, or keep up with their kids, or feel more energetic and confident. Functional and non-scale goals are my favorites! Sometimes clients say things like, “I want to weigh the same as I did in college.” Or “I need to lose 20 pounds before xxx event.” These goals are less likely to be fulfilled long term. Sometimes you can force weight off by battling your body and white knuckling through cravings and grueling workouts. It doesn’t last! Then where will you be a year from now? Setting the same goal for the umpteenth time?
It’s important to write down your WHY in a place that you see several times a day. Because this WHY has to be bigger than the obstacles that will pop up. No matter what the goal, you can be sure that obstacles will pop up. For example, Valentines Day might be problematic for someone trying to manage sugar cravings. Being super busy at work and not getting meal planning done is another. Make a list of 3 or 4 obstacles that are likely to pop up. Then write down a strategy to deal with them. Particularly if you have family responsibilities caring for kids or parents, it’s important to have a flexible plan for when things go off the rails… and not beat yourself up over it. Give yourself some grace.
Lastly for now, what small changes or behaviors will help support the goals? Perhaps one step toward eating better is increasing vegetables by one serving a day. It is much more effective to add a behavior before subtracting. Another example would be taking a 15 minute walk every day at lunch or after dinner. It is much more effective to start slow and steady! It’s not as “sexy” as glossy short term transformation programs that will have you only drinking juices or working out two hours a day. However, it IS what works long term for most people.
So go get some paper or post its and write down some ideas! Let me know what they are, and if I can help support your health journey 😊
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